Saturday, May 22, 2010

"Once again the 'T' in LGBT is silenced"

You may have heard about the Malawian couple that has been sentenced to 14 years in prison for the "unnatural act" of being in love. But did you know that one of the partners in this couple identifies as a woman? Read this article for more details.

It would be really nice if the stories of BTQIA people were told according to what is authentic and true to each person, instead of us being left out for whatever reason. Was this editorial sanitizing, or simply a lack of proper investigation? Coverage of lesbian and gay stories also leaves something to be desired, but the rest of us get the short end of the stick even more often, especially when our identities are erased. This problem would be easy to fix, so why is it still a problem?

Friday, May 21, 2010

Dear Democrats

Dear Democrats,

We need to talk.

This may be a hard letter to read, but I need to figure out if this relationship is still healthy for me.

For the longest time, I thought we had something special. Remember how much fun we used to have back when we were young, and control of the Congress and the presidency was just a crazy dream? You always used to ask me for help, and you knew I'd never turn you down.

You were so adorable when we were courting. Sure, you never really understood me, but I liked that you seemed to try. The White House cocktail parties were totally fun, and that Easter Egg Roll is something I'll always cherish. Or remember the time you let me march in the Inaugural parade! Other than that whole Rick Warren thing, I really thought we had a connection.

I know you kept telling me that you weren't ready for marriage, but I was willing to wait since you had promised so much else in the meantime.

But now, I've kind of had it. I'm just not getting what I need out of this relationship. You rarely call me anymore, and when you do it's to ask for money. We talked about joining the military together -- but now it seems like you are flaking on that commitment. You promised to protect me from the homophobes at work, but you don't seem to be in a hurry to actually do it. And that Department of Justice brief thing was just cruel. I'll never understand why you did that.

It almost seems like you're embarrassed by me in public. I know not everyone in your family approves of us, but before you got your new job, it seemed like you didn't care what they thought and were always ready to fight for me. Now, it's like you're a different person.

Please don't take this the wrong way. I still think we have a future. I want us to have a future. But I need this relationship to be healthy for both of us. And I just can't get excited anymore by your empty promises and half-gestures.

I need you to take a real step. You know what I'm talking about -- the Employment Non-Discrimination Act and repealing Don't Ask Don't Tell.

I still worry every day that I can be fired in 29 states just because I'm gay. And my friend who is transgender can be fired in 38 states. I know you can do it. You've helped protect people from employment discrimination on the basis of race, sex, religion, disability and many other characteristics. Each time my friend and I have been left behind. It's our turn. ENDA's time has come.

It's our turn to be welcomed into the military as well. I want to serve my country openly and proudly. I was so excited when you promised you would repeal Don't Ask, Don't Tell this year after 17 long years of putting up with it.

Now, I can't even get you to talk about DADT.

You promised to change. I know that you can. But why should I stand by your side when you can't keep your promises to me?

I get that you're scared. But I'm scared too -- scared of losing you. You need to prove to me that you really care. You need to finally give me the Employment Non-Discrimination Act and repeal Don't Ask Don't Tell, like you promised.

I have enough disappointments in my life. I need you to not be one of them.

The Gays
(and all those who love and care about them)

Add your name to this letter if you agree.

From the Courage Campaign, Credo Mobile, AMERICABlog & Open Left.

Friday, May 7, 2010

Inquiring NFL minds wants to know...

In the recent NFL pre-draft process, Geno Atkins (who is now playing for the Bengals) was asked if he is gay or straight.

Though it was reported on other blogs that it was the Bengals that asked this question, Atkins doesn't specifically say that it was the Bengals that asked it. But it doesn't really matter which team it was that asked. What matters is that queerness has absolutely NOTHING to do with your ability to play football. Sometimes I can't believe it's 2010.

H/T Matthew Yglesias.

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Lesbian set to become Ohio’s first out state lawmaker

Wow, I almost missed this!

Nickie Antonio tonight won the Democratic primary in the District 13 Ohio State House race that drew no Republican opponents for the fall. With only token opposition in the general election this November, Antonio is poised to become the state’s first openly LGBT state legislator. [via]

Totally awesome. I hope she wins. This is an important door to open, and I can't wait to see what happens from here.